Do you know someone special who made Santa’s naughty list this year? A sex toy could be the perfect gift.
Unlike a waffle iron, a sex toy is a gift they’ll actually use (and it’s a lot easier to clean!). Sex toys as gifts can also bring partners closer together and help you explore new avenues of your sex life.
But is gifting a sex toy always a good idea? Not always. There are some situations when you should not gift a sex toy—even to someone you’re having sex with.
Giving a sex toy to the wrong person or at the wrong time can result in awkwardness or worse.
So, how do you give a sex toy as a gift the right way? We’ll tell you how to find out if giving a sex toy is a good idea or not in this quick guide.
You’ll also learn how to choose the right sex toy (so your gift doesn’t suck… unless it’s supposed to 😉 🍆 ), and we’ll recommend some of the top sex toys that make amazing gifts.
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Sex Toy Gifting Do’s and Don’ts
If you're short on time, here are a few quick sex toy gifting tips you must know before shopping for sex toys.
👉 DO give sex toys to people you’re sexually open with
👉 DO talk about it first
👉 DO read the room and use your gut
👉 DO think about their pleasure first (it is a gift, after all!)
👉 DO give your gift when you’re alone together (or ask them to open it when they’re alone)
👉 DON’T give sex toy gifts at work
👉 DON’T give sex toys to people you don’t know well
👉 DON’T use sex toy gifts as a way to flirt or break the ice
👉 DON’T use the gift as an excuse to satisfy your own kink
👉 DON’T give sex toy gifts in public or in groups
How to Know If Gifting a Sex Toy Is a Good Idea
We’ve made it easy to find out how to give a sex toy as a gift. Before you start tossing out cock rings like candy to all your coworkers, ask yourself the questions below.
The answers will help you understand whether it's appropriate or not to gift a sex toy.
Remember, a sex toy gift faux pas could result in serious consequences, so give it some thought.
Who is receiving the gift?
As a general rule, there are only two types of people you should give a sex toy as a gift:
1. A partner you’re sexually active with
2. Close friends who you’re sexually open with (discussing or otherwise)
People you should NOT give sex toys to include acquaintances, colleagues, congregants, family members, and that cute barista that you want to ask out.
Are there exceptions to the rule? Sure. But if you want to play it safe, stick to the two options above.
Why, you ask?
Well, you don’t want to give a sex toy to anyone you don’t (or shouldn’t) have a sexual relationship with.
Just like you shouldn’t make sexual remarks to these people either. They probably won’t understand why you got them the gift, and it could be viewed as harassment.
Have you talked about it?
Getting a sex toy shouldn’t be a surprise. I know, it takes some of the magic away from gift-giving. But receiving an unexpected sex toy can be weird.
If you’re considering getting a sex toy for a friend or partner, strike up a conversation before shopping.
Ask them if they’ve ever used a sex toy before or if they might like to. If they say yes, then they’ll probably be more receptive to your gift.
Learn more about how to bring up the topic of sex toys in your relationship here.
If you’re talking to a partner, you can take it a step further and ask if they’d like to use a sex toy with you. If they’re interested, you’ve got the green light to buy a sex toy.
Why are you gifting them a sex toy?
This is a big one. What is your motivation for buying a sex toy for someone? Are you doing it for them or you?
Some people gift sex toys to partners as a way to satisfy their own fetish or kink. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing as long as you’ve discussed it first.
But it’s still kind of a selfish gift. It’s like the guy who buys his girlfriend an Xbox for Christmas and claims it’s because “he wants them to play together.”
Even worse, some people give sex toys to “break the ice” with a partner or to flirt.
It’s not a good idea to buy a butt plug and anal numbing lube for a partner as a way to start the conversation about trying anal sex.
It’s also not a good idea to buy a clit stimulator as a surprise Valentine’s Day gift for your crush.
You should buy a sex toy for someone because you care about their needs and their pleasure. And if you end up benefiting too, then all the better.
When and how are you giving it to them?
It’s common for people to put a lot of thought into their sexy gift and then give it at the exact wrong time. You need to give your sex toy at a time that’s comfortable for you and the recipient.
Some people feel nervous about their gift, so they decide to give it in front of friends or as a gag gift.
This might help take the pressure off, but it can also really embarrass the person you’re giving it to.
Other people do the same because they’re overconfident, thinking that it’s “no big deal” to gift sex toys in front of friends and family. The truth is, it makes most people uncomfortable.
You need to use your instincts to decide when the best time is to give a sex toy. With a partner, the best time is usually when you’re alone together and feeling frisky.
With a friend, you might want to give them the gift and tell them to open it when they’re alone (and to message you about it later).
Are they likely to appreciate the gift?
You need to follow your gut on this one. Ask yourself if the person you’re giving a sex toy to will like the gift and if they’ll appreciate getting it from you.
If you’re only hoping they’ll like it, that’s not good enough. You need to be at least 90% sure that the person will have a positive response to your gift.
If you’re unsure, it means that you might not be sexually open enough with this person yet. Or, it means you haven’t laid the groundwork by talking about it first.
A sex toy gift shouldn’t be a Hail Mary or a conversation starter. Only give a sex toy to a person you KNOW will understand the context of the gift and appreciate getting it from you.
Does the situation call for it?
In certain situations, it’s normal to give sex toys as gifts without putting a lot of thought into it.
For example, at bachelor and bachelorette parties, sex toys are often given to attendees without stigma.
Sex toy parties are another example. They are organized to help educate people about their own pleasure as well as sex toy use alone and with partners.
These are great occasions to gift sex toys in a way that won’t risk coming off as awkward.
The Most Popular Sex Toys to Give as Gifts
Choosing the right sex toy is a lot of work. Luckily, we’ve done most of it for you. Pick one of the sex toys below and you’ll be sure to put a big smile on the face of whoever receives it.
Gifts for Penis-havers
👉Tenga Spinner: Spiral motion penis masturbation sleeve with beads for added pleasure
👉 Fleshlight Quickshot: An easier-to-clean and budget-friendly version of the famous Fleshlight
👉 Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo: The award-winning “Guybrator” with 5 vibration modes and 8 speeds
👉 Manta Vibrating Stroker: Rechargeable male vibrator strokes the shaft for ecstatic sensation
👉 Lovense Solace Pro: Bluetooth and VR-enabled automatic masturbator for hands-free bliss
Gifts for Vagina-havers
👉 Satisfyer Pro 2 Clit Stimulator: Air-suction clit stimulator for huge orgasms without penetration
👉 Lovense Nora Rabbit Vibrator: App-compatible rabbit vibrator that stimulates the G-spot and clit
👉 Magic Wand: The original and still the best wand massager—no vagina should go without!
👉 Blush Avant Suction Dildo: Stylish dildo with a suction cup base for solo fun
👉 LELO Sona 2 Cruise This sonic vibrator pleasures the clit with penetrating sound waves
Gifts for Anal Play
👉 Satisfyer Sweet Seal: Affordable anal vibrator designed for those with and without prostates
👉 B-Vibe Anal Training Set: The perfect gift for beginners to anal play
👉 We-Vibe Vector+ Vibrating Prostate Massager: The gold standard of remote-controlled prostate massagers
👉 Pipedream Clear Glass Butt Plug: A sturdy, slick, and sensational premium butt plug
👉 Lovense Hush: Top-rated line of Bluetooth-enabled vibrating butt plugs
Gifts for Couples
👉 Satisfyer Endless Love Vibrating Ring: A couples vibrator with endless possibilities
👉 Pillo by Dame Sex Pillow: A comfortable wedge pillow increases your sex position repertoire
👉 We-Vibe Sync 2: The app-enabled couples vibrator she wears during sex
👉 Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo Lux: With wrist-strap remotes, this couples vibrator delivers intense hands-free fun
👉 Zero Tolerance Vibrating Girth Enhancer: This vibrator enhances his girth and pleasures both partners
Gifts for Everyone
👉 Condomania Gift Cards: There’s no easier way to please your lucky someone than with a Condomania gift card.
They’ll be able to choose from a massive collection of sex toys, lube, condoms, and so much more.
For couples, this is a great opportunity to give a gift AND enjoy shopping for sex toys together.
How to Choose The Perfect Sex Toy as a Gift
A sex toy should be a gift that keeps on giving. Here’s how to choose one that the receiver will be sure to cherish.
Do some sexy research
Everybody has different desires and kinks. They also have different needs in the bedroom. Do some research to figure out what they like before buying.
This usually involves talking to the person to find out what they like (this can also be a foreplay activity for partners).
Use the info you get to choose the right toy for their pleasure.
For example, if someone gets off more often from clitoral stimulation than penetration, then a vibrating bullet or a wand massager would be a much better gift idea than a dildo.
Or, if someone has limited mobility, some sex furniture could change their game completely.
It should be simple to do this sexy research because the person you’re buying a gift for should be easy to talk to about sex. If you can’t easily talk to them about sex, you probably shouldn’t be buying them a sex toy as a gift.
Shop for quality
Don’t go to that skeezy adult bookstore on the highway or that weird gift shop at the mall to buy your sex toy gifts.
Most of those places have a limited selection of cheap products. And if they’re gag gifts, they probably aren’t safe to put in your body.
The best place to find premium sex toys online is Condomania. Condomania has the largest curated collection of sex toys from top brands, and every toy is guaranteed medically tested for safety.
If you’re shopping for sex toys, you can’t compromise on quality. There are plenty of premium sex toy brands making safe and sensational products. There’s no excuse to buy a dud.
The difference between a good toy and a bad one is clear when you use it. Premium materials, realistic skin feel, multiple speeds and functions—better sex toys make for better sex and masturbation.
Choose the right size
Yes, size matters when it comes to sex toys. A dildo or butt plug that’s too big can be painful. If it’s too small, it might not be pleasurable.
Unfortunately, you can’t go to the sex shop and try one on for size. But, there are ways to find the right fit.
For beginners, start small. If you’re shopping for a partner, you might have a general idea of the size they’d prefer if you’ve used fingers, a penis, or toys before.
Sizing information is easy to find on dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and most other sex toys. You can also get sex toy sets in multiple sizes in one collection.
Make sure it’s safe
Your sex toy might be from a premium brand, but you still want to make sure it’s safe for the type of sex that the recipient is having. It’s also important that they know any risks of using certain sex toys.
For example:
👉 Silicone toys can be damaged and degraded by silicone lube
👉 Cock rings can cause harm if left on too long
👉 Gags and collars can cause breathing issues if they’re too tight
If you’re buying a sex toy for someone, make sure they’re prepared to use it safely.
Don’t forget lube
Giving someone a sex toy without lube is like giving a kid a toy without batteries. Lube is 100% necessary when using a sex toy.
Nobody wants to get down with a dry sex toy, and using soap or lotion is not a safe option (especially for anal and vaginal toys).
Add some premium lube to your sex toy gift so your partner or friend can whip it out and start using it right away.
Just make sure you get the right lube.
Remember:
👉 Water-based lube is the safest and can be used with all toys
👉 Silicone-based lube is silky and long-lasting but can’t be used with silicone toys
👉 Oil-based lube is ultra slick but can’t be used with condoms
Condomania is #1 for Sex Toy Gifts
Don’t shop anywhere but Condomania for your sex toy gifts or you might end up with a cheap product and an unhappy recipient.
When you’re giving someone something they will put inside their body or around their most sensitive parts, you just can’t risk it.
Luckily, Condomania makes it easy to shop for sex toy gifts with:
👉 The best selection online: Condomania has the largest curated selection of sex toys online, selected and vetted by experts for quality and safety.
👉 A trusted name: Condomania is the first condom shop in the USA (est. 1991 in New York City). We’ve been trusted for safe and kinky sex products for over 30 years.
👉 A safety guarantee: Every sex toy on Condomania’s shelves is medically tested for your safety. We only work with reputable brands (ZERO knock-offs, off-brands, or gag gifts).
👉 Free shipping: Place an order of $49 or more and get free shipping on your premium sex toys, condoms, lube, and more.
Giving a sex toy gift is a surefire way to put you on Santa’s “nice” list for years to come (or maybe the “naughty” list, depending on what you’re into 😈...).
Shop for sex toys right here at Condomania.
Need a few more gift ideas? Check out our top gift ideas for men here. If you’re hoping to buy a sex toy for a partner and don’t know how to start, we’ve got some helpful tips here!