How To Give a Sex Toy as a Gift

Do you know someone special who made Santa's naughty list this year? A sex toy could be the perfect gift.

Unlike a waffle iron, a sex toy is a gift they'll actually use (and it's a lot easier to clean!). Sex toys as gifts can also bring partners closer together and help you explore new avenues of your sex life.

But is gifting a sex toy always a good idea? Not always. There are some situations when you should not give a sex toy—even to someone you're having sex with.

Giving a sex toy to the wrong person or at the wrong time can result in awkwardness... or worse.

So, how do you give a sex toy as a gift the right way? We'll tell you how to find out if giving a sex toy is a good idea or not in this quick guide.

You'll also learn how to choose the right sex toy (so your gift doesn't suck… unless it's supposed to 😉 ), and we'll recommend some of the top sex toys that people love to get as gifts.

Sex Toy Gifting Do's and Don'ts

If you're short on time, here are a few quick sex toy gifting tips you must know before shopping for sex toys.

• DO give sex toys to people you're sexually open with
• DO talk about it first
• DO read the room and use your gut
• DO think about their pleasure first (it is a gift, after all!)
• DO give your gift when you're alone together (or ask them to open it when they're alone)
  
  
• DON'T give sex toy gifts at work
• DON'T give sex toys to people you don't know well
• DON'T use sex toys gifts as a way to flirt or break the ice
• DON'T use the gift as an excuse to satisfy your own kink
• DON'T give sex toy gifts in public or in groups
  
  

How to Know if Gifting a Sex Toy Is a Good Idea

We've made it easy to find out how to give a sex toy as a gift.

Before you start tossing out cock rings like candy to all your coworkers, ask yourself the questions below.

The answers will help you understand whether it's appropriate or not to gift a sex toy.

Remember, a sex toy gift faux pas could result in severe consequences, so give it some thought.

Who is receiving the gift?

As a general rule, there are only two types of people you should give a sex toy as a gift:

1. A partner you're sexually active with
2. Close friends who you're sexually open with (discussing or otherwise)

You should NOT give sex toys to include acquaintances, colleagues, congregants, family members, and that cute barista you want to ask out.

Are there exceptions to the rule? Sure. But if you want to play it safe, stick to the two options above.

Why? you may ask

Well, you don't want to give a sex toy to anyone you don't (or shouldn't) have a sexual relationship with.

Just like you shouldn't make sexual remarks to these people either.

They probably won't understand why you got them the gift, and it could be viewed as harassment.

Have you talked about it?

Getting a sex toy shouldn't be a surprise. I know it takes some of the magic away from gift-giving. But receiving an unexpected sex toy can be weird.

If you're considering getting a sex toy for a friend or partner, strike up a conversation before shopping.

Ask them if they've ever used a sex toy before or if they might like to. If the answer is yes, then they will probably be more receptive to your gift.

If you're talking to a partner, you can take it a step further and ask if they'd like to use a sex toy with you. If they're interested, you've got the green light to buy a sex toy.

Why are you gifting them a sex toy?

This is a big one. What is your motivation for buying a sex toy for someone? Are you doing it for them or for you?

Some people gift sex toys to partners as a way to satisfy their own fetish or kink. This isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as you've discussed it first.

But it's still kind of a selfish gift. It's like the guy who buys his girlfriend an Xbox for Christmas and claims it's because "he wants them to play together."

Even worse, some people give sex toys to "break the ice" with a partner or flirt. It's not a good idea to buy a butt plug and anal numbing lube for a partner as a way of starting the conversation about trying anal sex.

It's also not a good idea to buy a clit stimulator as a surprise Valentine's Day gift for your crush.

You should buy a sex toy for someone because you care about their needs and their pleasure. And if you end up benefiting too, then all the better.

When and how are you giving it to them?

It's common for people to put a lot of thought into their sexy gift and then to give it at the exact wrong time. You need to give your sex toy at a time that's comfortable for you and the recipient.

Some people feel nervous about their gift, so they decide to give it in front of friends or as a gag gift. This might help take the pressure off, but it can also really embarrass the person you're giving it to.

Other people do the same because they're overconfident, thinking that it's "no big deal" to gift sex toys in front of friends and family. The truth is, it makes most people uncomfortable.

You need to use your instincts to decide when the best time is to give a sex toy. With a partner, the best time is usually when you're alone together and feeling frisky.

With a friend, you might want to give them the gift and tell them to open it when they're alone (and to message you about it later).

Are they likely to appreciate the gift?

You need to follow your gut on this one. Ask yourself if the person you're giving a sex toy to will like the gift and if they'll appreciate getting it from you.

If you're only hoping they'll like it, that's not good enough. You need to be at least 90% sure that the person will positively respond to your gift.

If you're unsure, it means that you might not be sexually open enough with this person yet. Or, it means you haven't laid the groundwork by talking about it first.

A sex toy gift shouldn't be a Hail Mary or a conversation starter. Only give a sex toy to a person you KNOW will understand the context of the gift and appreciate getting it from you.

Does the situation call for it?

In certain situations, it's normal to give sex toys as gifts without putting a lot of thought into it. For example, at bachelor and bachelorette parties, sex toys are often given to attendees without stigma.

Sex toy parties are another example. They are organized to help educate people about their own pleasure and sex toy use alone and with partners.

These are great occasions to gift sex toys in a way that won't risk coming off as awkward.

The Most Popular Sex Toys to Give as Gifts

Choosing the right sex toy is a lot of work. Luckily, we've done most of it for you. Pick one of the sex toys below, and you'll be sure to put a big smile on the face of whoever receives it.

Gifts for Penis-havers

• Tenga Spinner Masturbators
• Tenga Egg Masturbators (great stocking stuffer!)
• Cock Rings (pleasurable for both of you)
• The "Manta" by Fun Factory

Spiral motion penis masturbation sleeve with beads for added pleasure.

Vibrating masturbation sleeve that works without jerking or thrusting.

A rechargeable male vibrator strokes the shaft for an ecstatic sensation.

Gifts for Vagina-havers

• Satisfyer Pro 2 Clitoral Stimulator
• Femme Funn Ultra Rabbit Vibrator
• Magic Wand Cordless Vibrator
• Avant Silicone Dildo with Suction Cup

Air-suction clit stimulator for huge orgasms without penetration.

A classic rabbit vibrator that stimulates the g-spot and clit.

The original and still the best wand massager—no vagina should go without!

Stylish dildo with a suction cup base for solo fun.

Gifts for Anal Play

Can be used as anal beads and a prostate massager.

The perfect gift for beginners to anal play.

Premium prostate massager delivers waves of pleasure.

A sturdy, slick, and sensational premium butt plug.

Gifts for Couples

Stimulates multiple zones on both partners simultaneously.

A comfortable wedge pillow increases your sex position repertoire.

Chinstrap dildo for double the fun during oral sex.

Explore each others' bodies with tantalizing vibrations.

Gifts for Everyone

Condomania Gift Cards: There's no easier way to please your lucky someone than with a Condomania gift card. They'll be able to choose from a massive collection of sex toys, lube, condoms, and so much more. This is an excellent opportunity for couples to give a gift AND enjoy shopping for sex toys together.

How to Choose The Perfect Sex Toy as a Gift

A sex toy should be a gift that keeps on giving. Here's how to choose one that the receiver will be sure to cherish.

Do some sexy research

Everybody has different desires and kinks. They also have different needs in the bedroom.

Do some research to figure out what they like before buying. This usually involves talking to the person to find out what they want (this can also be a foreplay activity for partners).

Use the info you get to choose the right toy for their pleasure.

For example, if someone gets off more often from clitoral stimulation than penetration, then a vibrating bullet would be a much better gift idea than a dildo.

Or, if someone has limited mobility, some sex furniture could change their game completely.

It should be simple to do this sexy research because the person you're buying a gift for should be easy to talk to about sex.

If you can't easily talk to them about sex, you probably shouldn't be buying them a sex toy as a gift.

Shop for quality

Don't go to that skeezy adult bookstore on the highway or that weird gift shop at the mall to buy your sex toy gifts.

Most of those places have a limited selection of cheap products. And if they're gag gifts, they probably aren't safe to put in your body.

If you're shopping for sex toys, you can't compromise on quality. There are dozens of premium sex toy brands that have been making toys for decades.

And the difference between a good toy and a bad one is evident when you use it. Premium materials, realistic skin feel, multiple speeds, and functions—better sex toys make for better sex and masturbation.

The best place to find premium sex toys is online is Condomania. Condomania has the most extensive curated collection of sex toys from top brands, and every toy is guaranteed medically tested for safety.

Choose the right size

Yes, size matters when it comes to sex toys. A dildo or butt plug that's too big can be painful. If it's too small, it might not be pleasurable.

Unfortunately, you can't go to the sex shop and try one on for size. But, there are ways to find the right fit.

For beginners, start small. If you're shopping for a partner, you might have a general idea of the size they'd prefer if you've used fingers, a penis, or toys before.

Sizing information is easy to find on dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and most other sex toys. You can also get sex toys sets in multiple sizes in one collection.

Make sure it's safe

Your sex toy might be from a premium brand, but you still want to make sure it's safe for the type of sex that the recipient is having. It's also essential that they know any risks of using certain sex toys.

For example:

• Silicone toys can be damaged and degraded by silicone lube
• Cock rings can cause harm if left on too long
• Gags and collars can cause breathing issues if they're too tight

If you're buying a sex toy for someone, make sure they're prepared to use it safely.

Don't forget the lube

Giving someone a sex toy without lube is like giving a kid a toy without batteries.

Lube is 100% necessary when using a sex toy. Nobody wants to get down with a dry sex toy, and using soap or lotion is not a safe option (especially for anal and vaginal toys).

Add some premium lube to your sex toy gift so your partner or friend can whip it out and start using it immediately.

Just make sure you get the right lube. Remember:

• Water-based lube is the safest and can be used with all toys
• Silicone-based lube cannot be used with silicone toys
• Oil-based lube can't be used with condoms

Condomania is #1 for Sex Toy Gifts

Don't shop anywhere but Condomania for your sex toy gifts, or you might end up with a cheap product and an unhappy recipient.

When you give someone something they will put inside their body or around their most sensitive parts, you just can't risk it. Luckily, Condomania makes it easy to shop for sex toy gifts with:

👉 The best selection online: Condomania has the most extensive curated selection of sex toys online, selected and vetted by experts for quality and safety.

👉 A trusted name: Condomania is the first condom shop in the USA (est. 1991 in New York City). We've been trusted for safe and kinky sex products for over 30 years.

👉 A safety guarantee: Every sex toy on Condomania's shelves is medically-tested for your safety. We only work with reputable brands (ZERO knock-offs, off-brands, or gag gifts).

Giving a sex toy gift is a surefire way to put you on Santa's "nice" list for years to come (or maybe the "naughty" list, depending on what you're into 😈...). Shop for sex toys right here at Condomania.

Need a few more gift ideas? Check out our top gift ideas for men here. If you're hoping to buy a sex toy for a partner and don't know how to start, we've got some helpful tips here!