Are you looking for a beginner sex toy? It can be easy to get overloaded with options. Everyone and their mother swears by a particular sex toy.
And let’s face it—there are a ton of sex toys for women to choose from.
So, how do you find a sex toy that’s right for your needs and budget?
The truth is that recommendations from friends and online articles can only go so far. The right sex toy for you depends on your body and the way you feel pleasure.
For example, some women love dildos because they get pleasure from penetration. Others could care less about big silicone dongs—they prefer clitoral stimulation from a vibrator or a wand.
Below, we’ll recommend some of the top-reviewed beginner sex toys for vulva-havers. And we won’t just tell you what people have to say about them.
You’ll also learn whether each toy is compatible with your pleasure preferences.
Let’s go!
Top 5 First-time Sex Toys for Her
To build the following list, I compiled Condomania customer reviews as well as thousands of online reviews from major retailers like Amazon.
I also consulted friends and colleagues in the sex toy industry for their expert opinions.
I work with sex toys for a living, so I’ve tested hundreds of sex toys for women over the years—including all the products on this list of the best first-time sex toys.
All of these toys are made by top brands, so you can rely on their safety and durability. I’ve also chosen affordable options.
As a beginner, you may not want to jump in with the >$250 luxury model before you learn the type of toy that really revs your engines.
Without further ado, here are my top picks.
👉 The Overall Best First-time Sex Toy for Her: VeDO Boom Ultra Bullet
A bullet vibrator is my #1 recommendation for a first-time sex toy for anyone with a clit. Bullets are affordable, discreet, and easy to use.
There’s basically zero learning curve, so you can start enjoying it right out of the box.
Oh, and bullets deliver intense waves of pleasure. The targeted vibrations do the work for you, so you don’t have to wear your fingers out. All you have to do is guide the bullet anywhere you want to feel good.
VeDO Boom Rechargeable Warming Bullet Vibrator - Turquoise
$49.99
$54.99
VeDO Boom Rechargeable Warming Bullet Vibrator: A Symphony of Pleasure in Your Hands! Introducing the VeDO Boom – not just a sex toy, but a sensation that's about to rock your world! This turquoise powerhouse is not your average bullet… Read More
The VeDO Boom is an ideal starter bullet. For about $50, you’re getting a top-end model with features like USB charging, 2-hour battery life, 10 vibration patterns, 6 intensity levels, and bath-friendly waterproofing.
You may want to upgrade at some point if bullets are your passion, but the VeDO Boom has everything you need.
I really like how soft the silicone material is—it’s great for my sensitive skin. And as a bonus, this bullet has internal heating so you never have to put a frigid toy on your coochie (it’s unpleasant, believe me).
If you get off from clit stimulation, a bullet vibrator should be your first sex toy. But keep in mind that it delivers intense, targeted vibrations.
This is ideal if you like to explore and pinpoint your pleasure zones. If you prefer a larger coverage area, you might want to choose a wand instead (more on that next).
👉 The (Other) Best Toy for Clitoral Stimulation: Magic Wand Mini Cordless Vibrator
Wand massagers are another type of clit stimulator. Instead of delivering targeted buzzing vibrations to a small area (like a bullet), wands spread rumbling vibrations over a larger area.
These rumbles come from a ball-shaped silicone massager head.
You can rest the massager head on your clit to send deep vibes across the entire area. Add more pressure for more intense vibrations, or straddle the massager if grinding gets you going (you can’t do that with a bullet!).
Wands are more versatile and more powerful than bullets. But they are also clunkier and costlier. Nonetheless, many people recommend wands as the best sex toys for beginners.
Magic Wand Mini Cordless Vibrator
$75.95
$99.95
Magic Wand Mini Massager Are you ready for a mini vibrator that packs a punch? Say hello to the Magic Wand Mini Rechargeable Vibrator! This little wonder is a must-have for those looking for big power in a small package.… Read More
If you’re interested in a wand, start with the Magic Wand Mini Cordless. Magic Wand is the OG inventor of the wand-style massager, and it still delivers a stellar experience today.
The Mini Wand is significantly cheaper than the Original Magic Wand, but you still get nearly the same vibrating power and features. But keep in mind that due to the mini size, you’ll feel vibrations in your hand too.
The Mini Wand is cordless and rechargeable. It delivers 2.5 hours of blissful rumbles per charge, so you don’t have to worry about the wand quitting before you reach the finish line.
The silicone massager head is soft and flexible, so you can use it in multiple positions or hands-free.
Unlike some higher-end wands, the Mini Wand only has 3 massage settings (by contrast, the LELO Smart Wand has eight).
But more advanced wands cost double the price (or more). The Magic Wand Mini is the perfect starter wand, in my opinion. Even if you upgrade, you’ll always have your Mini Wand for travel or as a backup toy.
👉 The Best Toy if You Have Trouble Orgasming: Satisfyer Pro 2 Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator
Let me be clear: Air suction vibrators are not only for women who have trouble reaching orgasm. I honestly believe everyone should have one of these toys. They are leg-shakingly, melt-into-a-puddle amazing.
However, if you’ve had trouble achieving orgasm in the past and are looking for a toy to do the trick, an air-suction vibrator should be your first toy.
Air suction vibrators aren’t actually vibrators. They use pulses of air to gently stimulate the clit without actually touching it.
They deliver a totally unique and safe experience that’s ideal for women who find full-contact vibrators (like bullets and wands) too intense.
These toys make it incredibly easy to come, even if your vagina has been stubborn in the past. I’ve met women who hadn’t had an orgasm in years and lasted minutes with this type of toy.
Satisfyer Pro 2 Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator
$49.99
$59.95
Satisfyer Pro 2 Air Pulse Stimulator You know you want it. The Satisfyer Pro 2 is a new style of clitoral stimulator. We call it "air suction" because it doesn't actually touch the clitoris! Stimulates the clitoris using intense pressure… Read More
So, which one should you choose? There’s no contest here. The Satisfyer Pro 2 is a legendary air pulse stimulator.
It’s a budget option, but it does not feel like it. It’s among the most famous and highest-reviewed sex toys for women.
It’s rechargeable and waterproof, and it’s got 11 different air pressure settings, so you can start slow and finish big.
👉 The Best Toy for Penetration: Avant D1 Hot 'n' Cool 6" Non-Porous Silicone Dildo
So far, everything on this list has required electricity. But sometimes, you just want a good old-fashioned dildo to push your buttons. This is especially true if you enjoy penetration or G-spot stimulation.
A dildo won’t quit on you or run out of batteries. And you can use it with a bullet or a wand for dual stimulation. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves….
The Avant D1 dildo is a great beginner dildo. It’s 6 inches long and not too thick, guaranteeing a comfy fit from day one.
It’s also got a super reliable suction cup, so you can stick it to the floor, the shower wall, or your partner’s head (kidding) and go to town hands-free.
Avant D1 Hot 'n' Cool 6" Non-Porous Silicone Dildo
$75.99
$94.38
A Modern Masterpiece Get ready to add some serious flair to your playtime with the Avant D1 Hot 'n' Cool 6" Non-Porous Silicone Dildo. This isn’t just a toy—it’s a work of art. Expertly crafted with your pleasure in mind,… Read More
If you’re interested in anal play, this is also a good dildo for exploring butt stuff. It’s got a slightly bulbous head, and the shaft is extra smooth for easy penetration (just make sure to use plenty of lube !).
Avant is a top-notch brand for form, function, and safety. It’s one of my favorite dildo manufacturers. I love the high-quality silicone and the non-porous guarantee (porous toys can get infected with bacteria).
It’s also very reasonably priced at under $50.
The only issue some may have is that it’s not a realistic-looking dildo—it doesn’t look like a real dick. If you want a realistic dildo, try this one.
👉 The Most Versatile First-time Sex Toy: Hot Octopuss Kurve G-spot Vibrator
Not sure exactly what type of stimulation you want to explore? Or maybe you love all types of pleasure!
The Hot Octopuss Kurve unlocks the doors to penetration, clit stimulation, and G-spot play. But that’s not the only reason it’s so versatile.
The Kurve features two vibration motors—one rumbly one and one buzzy one. Normally, you need to choose between one vibe style and the other when shopping for sex toys.
Bullets tend to be buzzy, while wands are rumbly. But with the Kurve, you get both. You can choose between one or the other—or combine both for a body-rocking experience.
Hot Octopuss Kurve - G-Spot Vibrator
$99.00
The mystery of the G-spot is solved! KURVE features Hot Octopuss patented dual-motor Treble and Bass technology, offering the ultimate in user customization. Boasting a soft gel tip that provides a broad surface area and ergonomic contours that ensure the right kind… Read More
Kurve feels just as good in your hands as it does on your body. Its dual-density silicone is exquisitely squishy, so it feels like a real member is pushing, thrusting, and rubbing against you.
It also features large buttons that are easy to navigate even when you’re losing control.
Finally, the Kurve is totally waterproof and submersible. It’s also rechargeable, with a two-hour charge delivering two hours of playtime.
There really isn’t any other vibrator like the Kurve. And while it’s a bit pricier than the other first-time toys on this list, you get tremendous bang for your buck (pun intended).
Looking for Something More Advanced? Try These Sex Toys
You’ve probably heard of some other popular sex toys, such as toys for dual-stimulation, anal, and hands-free play.
I didn’t include those toys on the list above because I think beginners are better off starting with less intense stimulation.
The first-time toys above make it easier to explore your body and find out the type of pleasure you’re into.
But if you’re looking for something a little more advanced, I can point you in the right direction. Here are a few types of toys I’d recommend exploring after trying the beginner toys above.
👉 Rabbit Vibrator: A rabbit vibrator has two vibrating arms—one for penetration and one for clit stimulation. It’s like having two vibrators in one.
Rabbits deliver dual stimulation of the clit and G-spot, which can help you achieve a blended orgasm—when you come from clit and G-spot stimulation at the same time.
This type of stimulation is intense, but so is the finish. I highly recommend it, but it might be too intense for a beginner, depending on how sensitive you are. Explore rabbit vibrators here.
👉 Sonic Vibrator: A sonic vibrator is the next level up from an air-suction vibrator. Instead of air, sonic vibrators use sound waves to stimulate your clit.
Just like air suction massagers, there’s no physical contact involved. Sound waves can be very intense, but they’re smoother and more penetrating than air pulses.
Unlike air, you feel sound waves resonate deep inside you. I recommend the LELO SONA 2. You have to feel it to believe it.
👉 Anal toys: An anal trainer kit is a fun way to experiment with butt stuff. It’s a set of butt plugs that start small and get bigger.
You can also try a slim butt plug like this one by Luxe. I like it because it’s got a super wide base (for safety), and its egg-shaped plug tapers off once inside to prevent any discomfort.
👉 Hands-free toys: Remote-controlled toys like the VeDO Peach are discreet toys that you can put inside your vagina and then control from a distance with a remote or an app.
These toys are fun to use with a partner, and you can use them safely in public too.
How to Choose Your First Sex Toy
OK, now you’ve got a lot of toys to choose from. How do you pick your first sex toy?
Start by thinking about the type of pleasure that puts you on the path to an orgasm. Do you like clit stimulation? G-spot? Anal?
If you don’t know, then it’s time you found out. You can do this by exploring your body with your fingers before you spend any cash. Be mindful of what feels good when you’re touching yourself.
Once you have an idea of where you like to be stimulated, choose a toy from the list below:
VeDO Boom Rechargeable Warming Bullet Vibrator - Pink
$49.99
VeDO Thrill Rechargeable Warming Bullet Vibrator Hello, pleasure seekers! Get ready to be thrilled with the VeDO Thrill in the enchanting hue of Pink Euphoria. This isn't just a sex toy; it's a carnival of ecstasy, and our Condomaniacs are… Read More | 👉 Clitoral: Get the VeDO Boom bullet vibrator. If you’re extra sensitive, get the Satisfyer Pro 2 air pulse stimulator. |
Avant D1 Hot 'n' Cool 6" Non-Porous Silicone Dildo
$75.99
A Modern Masterpiece Get ready to add some serious flair to your playtime with the Avant D1 Hot 'n' Cool 6" Non-Porous Silicone Dildo. This isn’t just a toy—it’s a work of art. Expertly crafted with your pleasure in mind,… Read More | 👉 Penetration: Get the Avant D1 dildo. If you’d like some vibrations, too, get the Hot Octopuss Kurve. |
Hot Octopuss Kurve - G-Spot Vibrator
$99.00 The mystery of the G-spot is solved! KURVE features Hot Octopuss patented dual-motor Treble and Bass technology, offering the ultimate in user customization. Boasting a soft gel tip that provides a broad surface area and ergonomic contours that ensure the right kind… Read More | 👉 G-spot: Get the Hot Octopuss Kurve. |
B Swish Bwild Deluxe Bunny Rabbit Vibrator - Raspberry
$56.55 Looking for a bunny that won't hop away? Meet the Bwild Deluxe Bunny Rabbit Vibrator! This tantalizing toy boasts twin motors and 6 different functions, delivering maximum pulsating power to both the shaft and pinpoint-precise tickling bunny. Made from silky… Read More | 👉 Dual stimulation (clit + G-spot): Get a rabbit vibrator like the B Swish Bwild Deluxe Bunny. |
Luxe Wearable Vibra Slim Butt Plug - Small Size
$19.99
Small Size Slim Butt Plug The Luxe Wearable Vibra Slim Plug is a sleek anal plug with a uniquely stimulating design. Even the slightest movement of your body will yield silent vibrations. No batteries or recharging is required! The inner… Read More | 👉 Anal: Try a butt plug like the Luxe Vibra Slim. |
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It’s a fun way to explore new toys, and it only takes 30 seconds.
Are Sex Toys Safe?
Yes, sex toys are safe!
Sex toys for women are designed with women’s bodies in mind. As long as you choose a sex toy from this article or Condomania’s collection, you can be sure that your toy is body-safe.
100% of Condomania’s toys are medically tested for your safety, and we only work with top brands.
While sex toys are generally safe, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.
Never buy unbranded or cheap sex toys
Sex toys by reputable brands are safe. But some sex toys on the market are made with non-body-safe materials or faulty electrical components.
That’s why you should only buy toys from experienced retailers like Condomania (we’re America’s first condom shop, and we’ve been selling sex toys for over 30 years).
Never buy sex toys from gift stores, vending machines, or auction sites.
Cleaning is critical
It’s essential to clean your toy well before and after using it. Some toys are easy to clean—like bullets. Others are harder to clean—like realistic dildos made from delicate skin-like materials.
Failing to clean your toy can result in mold and bacteria growth, which can give you an infection.
The easiest way to keep your toy clean is to buy some sex toy cleaner. It makes it super easy to disinfect and protect your toys.
Use the right lube
You must use lube with your sex toys. Without lube, sex toys can be very uncomfortable and even painful (looking at you, butt plugs). But remember that not any lube will do.
Stick with a water-based lube. Silicone lube is slicker, but you can’t use it with silicone toys (it degrades the material, which can lead to bacterial infection).
If you want to use silicone lube, buy some glass toys or metal toys. You can learn more about sex lube in my ultimate guide to lube.
Take it slow
This isn’t porn, so don’t pound yourself with a dildo or turn your vibrator up to 11 on the first day. That’s a good way to learn a painful lesson from your sex toy.
Your pleasure isn’t a race, so take time to smell the roses and go slow.
Buy Your First Sex Toy Now
You’ve got everything you need to buy your first sex toy. Which one will you choose?
If you can’t decide, why not buy a few? Remember that you get FREE shipping when you spend over $49 at Condomania. Spend $65, and we’ll send you free sex toys, lube, or condoms as a gift!
As always, packaging and billing are totally discrete. Neither your bank nor your mailman will know your business.
Sex toys are amazing tools for getting to know your body and enhancing your pleasure. Don’t wait to start your journey. You’re not alone. Over 80% of women own a sex toy!
Choose your next sex toy from the list above, or explore hundreds more sex toys for women at Condomania now.