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Not sure how to use that new vibrator? Here's everything you need to know — by type.
Tip: If you don't have a vibrator yet, read our Vibrators 101 Guide first to choose the right one for you.
The Essentials: How to Use a Vibrator
These rules apply to ALL vibrators — regardless of type:
👉 Clean it first: Even a brand-new vibrator needs cleaning. Read the packaging instructions. Use warm water + antibacterial soap, or a sex toy cleaner to limit moisture near charging ports.
👉 Apply lube: Never use a vibrator without lube. Most vibrators are silicone — use water-based lube only (silicone lube damages silicone toys). We recommend Sliquid H2O.
👉 Start slow: Foreplay first — massage nipples, thighs, and other erogenous zones on low before approaching the vulva. Don't insert or apply buzz to your clit when unaroused.
👉 Touch where it feels good: If it feels good, keep doing it. If it doesn't, stop. It may take a few sessions to find your sweet spots.
👉 Clean immediately after: Bacteria and mold grow fast on used toys. Clean right away.
👉 Store in a cool, dry place: Sock drawer = perfect. Humid bathroom = no.
Types of Vibrators
Bullet Vibrators
Small, palm-sized, buzzy. For clit stimulation. Affordable, portable, easy to clean. Best first vibrator.
Lovense Ambi Bluetooth-Controlled Bullet Vibrator
$64.00
$69.99
Lovense Ambi Bluetooth Vibrator Get ready to meet your new bestie in the bedroom: the Lovense Ambi! Picture this: a toy so playful, so sensual, it's like having your own personal pleasure genie. 💫 Curves in All the Right Places… Read More
Wand Vibrators
Large baton with bulbous head. Deep, rumbly vibrations (vs. buzzy) — triggers strong orgasms quickly. Can be straddled or ridden hands-free. Very powerful — often corded.
LELO Smart Wand 2 Large - Luxury Wand Massager Black
$159.99
$199.99
SMART WAND 2 is the ideal personal wand massager for you or your partner. It serves as a stress relief tool that helps you relax, thus opening the door to releasing your sensuality and focusing on achieving a deep and… Read More
Magic Wand Plus HV-265 Personal Massager
$119.99
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Dame Com Wand Massager - Quartz
$119.00
Com by Dame is a body-friendly take on the classic wand shape, upgraded for comfort. Great as a first wand or for more experienced players craving intense external clitoral stimulation, Com's curved handle makes it easy to hold while it… Read More
Air Suction Vibrators
Surround the clit with air pulses — no direct contact. Intensely pleasurable, but gentle. Best for those who are sensitive or have trouble climaxing.
Dame Aer - Air Pulse Clit Stimulator
$119.99
$139.99
Dame Aer Clitoral Massager Calling all oral lovers! Dame just launched their pressure wave suction toy, Aer. Aer creates thrilling pulses of air and a soft seal around the clitoris, so they can go all the way, right away. A… Read More
Internal Vibrators
G-Spot Vibrators
Curved with bulbous head for applying pressure to the G-spot (~1–2 inches inside on the upper wall). Can also be used for clit stimulation.
Rabbit Vibrators
Dual-arm, dual-motor — one penetrates for G-spot, one rests on clit. Delivers simultaneous blended orgasms. Among the best-selling vibrators.
SVAKOM Angel Flexible Warming Rabbit Vibrator
$94.99
$109.99
Svakom's Angel G-spot & Clitoris Vibrator is a versatile vibrator you do not want to miss. It is powerful, talented, and elegant. It's ergonomically designed for easy holding. It has 2 super strong motors which can be used independently or… Read More
Lovense Nora Bluetooth-Controlled Rabbit Vibrator
$114.00
$119.00
Introducing Nora: Your New Pleasure Pal! Meet Nora, your new best friend in Pleasure Town! 🎉 Smart and Sexy: Bluetooth Bliss This ain't your grandma's vibrator – this baby's got brains and beauty. With Bluetooth smarts, you can control Nora… Read More
Penis Vibrators
Vibrating strokers, cock rings, pumps, and sleeves. Read more about penis vibrators here.
VeDo GRIP Vibrating Penis Stroker
$59.99
$69.99
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How to Use Each Type of Vibrator
How to Use a Bullet Vibrator
👉 Hold like a pen. Touch to your clit — try up-and-down or side-to-side motions on or beside it.
👉 Start at the lowest intensity setting. Increase gradually.
👉 Explore labia and vaginal opening too.
⚠️ External only — never insert into vagina or use anally (can get lost, causing an ER visit). For anal play: use a vibrating butt plug.
How to Use a Wand Vibrator
👉 Hold near the base of the handle (not the head) to protect your hand from vibrations.
👉 Rest the bulbous head on your clit. Start at lowest setting — wands are powerful.
👉 Too intense? Move slightly above/below your clit, or place a thin towel between you and the wand.
👉 Try sitting on it, grinding it, or lying on your stomach.
👉 Easy to use on your clit during sex with a partner. Corded models recommended for long sessions — never runs out mid-session.
How to Use an Air Suction Vibrator
👉 Position the opening over your clit and adjust until comfortably covered.
👉 Turn on at lowest setting and adjust until you feel rhythmic suction pulses.
👉 Too intense? Lift slightly off your clit, or use it over underwear.
👉 Move your hips to adjust exposure to air pulses — the toy stays relatively still, your body does the adjusting.
How to Use a G-Spot Vibrator
👉 Start with exterior clit foreplay first — insertion is easier when aroused.
👉 Insert with the curved head facing UP (like a "come here" finger). Slide in slowly.
👉 Locate the G-spot ~1–2 inches in on the upper wall — rough, spongy texture. Rock back and forth gently (don't thrust in/out).
👉 Add pressure to engorge the G-spot. Add a bullet on your clit simultaneously for dual stimulation.
⚠️ G-spot vibrators have large heads — insert slowly if you're new to penetration play.
How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator
👉 Foreplay first — use the rabbit externally on your clit/vulva before inserting.
👉 Insert the larger arm slowly (a few inches) until it reaches your G-spot.
👉 Adjust position until the external arm rests on your clit. May take adjustment — everyone's anatomy is different.
👉 Gently rock up-and-down or in-and-out. Takes practice to find the right motion for your body.
⚠️ Dual stimulation can be intense. If you haven't used a vibrator before, start with a bullet or G-spot vibrator first. If you don't enjoy penetration, an air-suction vibrator may suit you better.
How to Use a Penis Vibrator (Stroker)
👉 Apply TENGA Hole Lotion or water-based lube inside the stroker first.
👉 Slide in gently until snug. Start on lowest setting.
👉 Stroke up and down gently — most strokers require manual motion. High-end exceptions: LELO F1S V2X and SVAKOM Alex Neo are automatic.
For partner play, try an open-ended stroker like the VeDO Grip — easier to clean, allows mouth/hand combo.
Best Lube for Vibrators
Use water-based lube. Safe with all vibrator materials, easy to clean, won't stain sheets. Our go-to: Sliquid H2O.
⚠️ Never use silicone lube with silicone vibrators — it degrades the material, creating microscopic bacteria-harboring cracks.
How to Clean Your Vibrator
👉 Read the cleaning instructions on packaging first (varies by toy).
👉 Remove battery packs or cover charging ports if needed.
👉 Wash with warm water + antibacterial soap, or use a sex toy cleaning spray (less moisture risk).
👉 Pat dry gently with a soft cloth. Let air-dry completely before storing.
How to Store Your Vibrator
👉 Cool, dry place — underwear drawer is ideal.
👉 Keep in a box or breathable cloth bag.
👉 Avoid moisture, heat, and direct sunlight — all promote bacterial growth or material damage.
👉 Don't store silicone toys touching each other — silicone-on-silicone contact degrades both toys.
Using a Vibrator for Anal Play
Only use vibrators anally if they have a large, flared base — smaller toys (especially bullets) can get completely lost inside, requiring a hospital visit. Vibrating butt plugs are purpose-built for anal. Learn more in our 101 Guide to Anal Sex.
When to Use a Condom with a Vibrator
👉 Quick cleanup: Condom on the toy = skip thorough washing.
👉 Casual partner: Sharing toys can transmit STIs — always use a condom.
👉 Switching holes: Never go from butt to vagina without washing or changing condom — risk of UTI and bacterial vaginosis.
Choose a snug-fitting condom so it doesn't vibrate off — try Crown Condoms (36 pack for under $25).
Final Words
Three things to remember: use lube, keep it clean, do what feels good. If a vibrator isn't working for you, it may be the wrong type — not the wrong technique. We're always here to help you figure it out. For the full vibrator breakdown, see our 101 Guide to Vibrators.