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Your raw, bare hand is stone-age wank technology. It’s time to upgrade to a better masturbation experience with a sex toy.
For your first sex toy, you want something easy to use, easy to clean — but most importantly, something that makes masturbation feel way better. I’ve been working with male sex toys for years and tested nearly all of them. These are the best first-time picks.
The Top 5 First-Time Sex Toys for Guys
(If you’re interested in butt stuff, check out this article on prostate massage for beginners.)
The Best Overall First-Time Sex Toy for Him: Tenga Spinner
Tenga is the OG of male masturbators, and its Spinner combines the classic up-down motion with a rotating sensation. No batteries — physics do the work. The soft, skin-like material plus internal textures (ribs, studs, beads) add varying pressure and stimulation as they spin. Six different designs, all under $50.
TENGA Spinner Penis Stroker | 'Pixel' 04
$25.99
$29.99
Tenga Spinner "Pixel" Reuseable Spiral-Motion Male Masturbator If you're looking for your new best friend, look no further than the Tenga Spinner "Pixel" Male Masturbator. The inside of the Tetra Pixel is uniquely fitted with a spiral of delicate enveloping nodes for a unique… Read More
The Best Suction Stroker: Arcwave Pow
Using air pressure alone, the Arcwave Pow creates sucking sensations that simulate a real blowjob — tip-to-base suction with a textured silicone interior. Control the pressure with a release valve on the outside. No electronics, so it’s easy to clean. A bit pricier than other starter toys, but absolutely worth it.
Arcwave Pow Male Stroker - Male Masturbator with Suction Control - Mint
$69.00
$79.99
Arcwave Pow Male Stroker - Male Masturbator with Suction Control Shake it up. Arcwave Pow is a premium manual stroker with suction control, textured CleanTech Silicone sleeve, and dual entry. Pow's intuitive silicone pleasurably tightens during use while the air… Read More
The Best Vibrating Sex Toy for Him: VeDO Grip
The VeDO Grip adds buzzing vibes to the stroking sensation — 10 different intensities let you literally turn your wank up a notch. Great for longer sessions where the toy does most of the work. It’s open-ended, making it extra fun with a partner and much easier to clean.
VeDo GRIP Vibrating Penis Stroker
$59.99
$69.99
Introducing the VeDo Grip for Men Say YES to the Vedo Grip Vibrating Stroker. This penis masturbation toy is great for both Solo play and Partner play. Recommended for use in the bedroom or the shower -- the Vedo Grip won't let… Read More
The Most Discreet Sex Toy: Tenga FLEX
This Red Dot Design award winner could sit on your desk all day and nobody would know it’s a sex toy. Blends stroking, spinning, and suction with an air hole to control pressure. Built-in drying stand makes cleanup easy.
TENGA Flex Stroker Toy
$37.99
$39.99
TENGA introduces THE TENGA FLEX, a stylish Red Dot Design Award winner reusable masturbation sleeve that features a sensational soft outer case. Open yourself to experience new sensations with TENGA FLEX! TENGA FLEX presents an innovative malleable casing with a… Read More
Beginner Tip: For an even more discreet stroker, try the Tenga Pocket — unique internal textures, stretches to any size, totally discreet for travel.
The Best Disposable Stroker: Satisfyer Masturbator Egg
Each egg-shaped container holds an extra-stretchy, skin-like single-use sleeve. Open, add lube, go. When finished, toss the whole thing. Low cost (about $10 each), compact, and perfect first-time testers. Also great discreet travel companions.
Satisfyer 'Bubble' Penis Stroker Egg
$6.95
$7.95
Satisfyer Masturbator Egg - Bubble Featuring a skin-like texture, the Satisfyer Masturbator Eggs pleasure both the shaft of the penis and the tip. Varying inner shapes surprise and delight with nuanced sensations. And thanks to the innovative cyber-skin, there is no… Read More
Important: You Must Use Lube
Using a sex toy without lube is like trying to ice skate on cement. You need to invest a few bucks into actual sex lube — for your sake and the toy’s. Without lube, friction causes discomfort and can damage the delicate interior of the toy.
The best lube for sex toys is water-based lube — affordable, non-staining, and easy to clean. My favorites:
Sliquid H2O Water-Based Lubricant
$10.99
$11.99
Sliquid H2O: The Premier Water-Based Lube Looking for a lubricant that's long-lasting and safe for your body? Look no further than Sliquid H2O Water-Based Lubricant. This adult lubricant is formulated with purified water and plant cellulose to provide a natural,… Read More
Boy Butter "H2O" Water-Based Lubricant
$10.99
$11.99
Boy, this butter sure is sexy! Boy Butter H2O from Boy Butter Products is a gentle concoction of natural ingredients, including shea butter, vitamin E, and aloe, that provides lubrication to the most intimate places without irritation. Longer-lasting than the… Read More
Wet Water-Based Lubricant
$3.99
$6.99
Unleash Your Sensory Adventure Welcome to the world of slick sensations with our Wet Water-Based Lubricant! 😎 Prepare for a journey where every touch feels like a high-five from a unicorn 🦄. Versatile Pleasure This ain't your grandma's lube; it's… Read More
4 Reasons Why You Should Buy Your First Sex Toy Right Now
👉 It makes masturbation BETTER: Sex toys were designed to make masturbation feel better — WAY better. Once you try one, you will wonder why the hell you didn’t buy one sooner.
👉 It makes sex with a partner BETTER: Sex toys add many more possibilities to the bedroom — foreplay, teasing, edging, mutual masturbation.
👉 They help you last LONGER: If you use a toy that feels similar to the real thing, you get a lot more practice building up your stamina. Your partner will thank you.
👉 They’re actually GOOD for your health: Studies have found that men who ejaculate over 20 times a month are less likely to develop prostate cancer and heart disease, and they get better sleep.
Where is the Best Place to Buy Sex Toys?
The best place is online from Condomania — America’s first-ever condom shop (est. 1991 in NYC). You get FREE discreet billing and packaging, FREE condoms and sex toys with your order, and the best exclusive deals on sex toys. Browse all of the male sex toys at Condomania here.
Are Male Sex Toys Safe?
Yes — no side effects; they can actually improve your health. The one key safety tip: clean your toys well. Many male sex toys are made of semi-porous TPE that can harbor bacteria and mold. A bit of soap and water, or a sex toy cleaner, is all you need. For the easiest clean-up, choose an open-ended toy like the VeDO Grip.
Get Your First Sex Toy Now
Over 50% of men use sex toys. Once you try one, you’ll never look at your hand the same way again. Buy your first sex toy now and start having better sex alone and with a partner.
Want to explore more toys for guys? Check out the more comprehensive Ultimate Guide to Male Sex Toys.
FAQs
Are sex toys really better than using your hand?
Yes. Objectively. Scientifically. Spiritually.
Your hand is fine, but sex toys are literally engineered to feel better—more texture, more pressure, more sensation, and way less wrist fatigue. Once you try one, your hand becomes the backup option.
What’s the best first sex toy for a guy?
A stroker. Hands down.
Strokers feel familiar, don’t require instructions or courage, and instantly upgrade masturbation. Toys like the Tenga Spinner or VeDO Grip are perfect because they’re easy to use, easy to clean, and insanely effective.
Do I need to be a certain size to use a stroker?
Nope.
Most strokers are super stretchy and designed to comfortably fit a wide range of sizes. If it says “one size fits most,” they actually mean it. Your ego (and your dick) are safe here.
Do I really need lube with a sex toy?
Yes. Always. No exceptions.
Using a toy without lube is like trying to grill without heat—it’s pointless and uncomfortable. A good water-based lube makes toys feel smoother, protects the toy, and keeps your skin happy.
Are vibrating toys too intense for beginners?
Not if you start slow.
Most vibrating strokers have multiple intensity levels, so you can ease into it. Low vibrations feel amazing and help you last longer. You can always turn things up when you’re ready to blast off.
Are disposable toys actually worth it?
For beginners? Yes.
Disposable strokers like Satisfyer Eggs or Tenga Pockets are cheap, fun, and great for testing textures before committing to a reusable toy. Just don’t make them your long-term plan unless you enjoy spending more money over time.
How do I clean a male sex toy?
Soap, warm water, done.
Most beginner toys are designed to be low-maintenance. Wash them after every use, let them dry fully, and store them somewhere clean. If cleaning feels annoying, you chose the wrong toy.