You don’t use an atlas to navigate on the road. And you don’t play Atari when you want to game. So why would you use your hand to masturbate?
Your raw, bare hand is stone-age wank technology. It’s time to upgrade to a better masturbation experience with a sex toy.
But where to begin…
You don’t want to spend half your paycheck for some space-age dick sucker that comes with a 40-page manual.
For your first sex toy, you want something that’s easy to use and easy to clean—but most importantly, you want a toy that makes masturbation feel way better.
I’ve been working with male sex toys since before the Fleshlight was even a thing, and I’ve tested nearly all of them.
If you’re looking for a first-time sex toy to test the waters and VASTLY improve your alone time, the following are the best of the best.
The Top 5 First-Time Sex Toys for Guys
I’ve tested hundreds of sex toys over the years to make this list of the best strokers for first-timers (if you’re interested in butt stuff, check out this article on prostate massage for beginners ).
These toys are safe and affordable, and you can use them right out of the box. There’s no reason not to grab one (or a few) to improve your solo game instantly.
The Best Overall First-Time Sex Toy for Him: Tenga Spinner
Tenga is the OG of male masturbators, and its Spinner changed the game. The Tenga Spinner combines the classic up-down motion we know and love with a rotating sensation that takes your nut to new levels.
TENGA Spinner Penis Stroker | 'Pixel' 04
$25.99
$34.99
Tenga Spinner "Pixel" Reuseable Spiral-Motion Male Masturbator If you're looking for your new best friend, look no further than the Tenga Spinner "Pixel" Male Masturbator. The inside of the Tetra Pixel is uniquely fitted with a spiral of delicate enveloping nodes for a unique… Read More
The Spinner uses physics to rotate around your shaft as you move it up and down. No batteries or electronic parts are involved. This also means it’s really easy to clean (a VERY important factor when buying a sex toy!).
The material is soft and skin-like, especially when you add warming lube. But where the Spinner excels is in its internal textures.
These textures, such as ribs, beds, studs, and other designs, add varying pressure and stimulation as they spin around your pole.
There are currently six different spinner designs to choose from, and because they only cost about $25 a pop, you can try them all.
The Best Suction Stroker: Arcwave Pow
Stroking is fun, but what about a toy that actually sucks you off? Using the power of air pressure alone, the Arcwave Pow creates sucking sensations that simulate a real blowjob.
Actually, the comprehensive tip-to-base suction and textured silicone interior make this toy better than most BJs in my book.
It’s very easy to use. Just add lube, stick your D inside the silicone stroker, and then go to town. The toy’s design pulls air inside, adding pressure and real sucking sensations.
You can intensify or release the pressure by moving your finger over a pressure release valve on the outside of the toy.
Arcwave Pow Male Stroker - Male Masturbator with Suction Control - Mint
$69.00
Arcwave Pow Male Stroker - Male Masturbator with Suction Control Shake it up. Arcwave Pow is a premium manual stroker with suction control, textured CleanTech Silicone sleeve, and dual entry. Pow's intuitive silicone pleasurably tightens during use while the air… Read More
Whether you like your BJs gentle, vacuum-powered, or sloppy, the Arcwave Pow can deliver.
Arcwave is a brand that engineers some of the most intense sensations without any electronics involved. So, you won’t have to worry about batteries here.
The Pow is a bit pricier than the other starter sex toys on this list, but it’s worth the money.
The Best Vibrating Sex Toy for Him: VeDO Grip
The VeDO Grip is a vibrating stroker, which means it adds buzzing vibes to the already excellent stroking sensation. Its interior is similar to other strokers.
It features textures and varying pressure chambers to ensure each stroke is replete with pleasure.
By clicking a button, you can choose from 10 different vibrating intensities to literally turn your wank up a notch.
Vibrating strokers are great for when you want to enjoy a longer session. The stroker does most of the work, so you can sit back, relax, and enjoy the vibes while you watch your favorite adult entertainment.
Up the vibration intensity and increase your jerk speed slowly until you get to the finish line.
VeDo GRIP Vibrating Penis Stroker
$60.99
$69.99
Introducing the VeDo Grip for Men Say YES to the Vedo Grip Vibrating Stroker. This penis masturbation toy is great for both Solo play and Partner play. Recommended for use in the bedroom or the shower -- the Vedo Grip won't let… Read More
One thing I love about the VeDO Grip is that it’s open-ended—meaning your head pops out the end of the stroker.
This makes it extra fun to use with a partner (who can add some oral stimulation to your stroke), and it makes cleanup way easier.
The Most Discreet Sex Toy: Tenga FLEX
It’s your first time buying a sex toy, and you might be worried about a parent or roommate finding your stroker and thinking you’re a weirdo. Well, there are plenty of strokers that don’t look like sex toys at all.
My favorite is the Tenga FLEX. This thing could sit on your desk all day, and no one would know it was a sex toy. But when it comes time to play, the sensations are exquisite.
Tenga FLEX blends stroking, spinning, and suction for some of the most intense Os you’ll get from a toy. Much like the Spinner, the interior is textured, and the toy is designed to spin as you pump it.
It also has an air hole on top that you can use to control the pressure, creating intense suction sensations.
TENGA Flex Rocky Black Penis Masturbation Sleeve
$39.99
$47.99
TENGA introduces THE TENGA FLEX, a stylish Red Dot Design Award winner reusable masturbation sleeve that features a sensational soft outer case. Open yourself to experience new sensations with TENGA FLEX! TENGA FLEX presents an innovative malleable casing with a… Read More
The Tenga FLEX is a Red Dot Design award winner, so you know it excels in form and function. It’s also extra easy to clean thanks to its built-in drying stand.
Beginner Tip: Looking for an even more discreet stroker? Try the Tenga GEO. it looks NOTHING like a masturbator. It delivers a stellar stroke, but it’s not as durable as the Tenga FLEX.
The Best Disposable Stroker: Satisfyer Masturbator Egg
If you want to dip your toes into the waters of masturbation toys before buying a full-on toy, grab a pack of disposable strokers like the Satisfyer Eggs.
Each egg-shaped container holds an extra-stretchy, skin-like single-use sleeve. Just open the egg, add lube to the sleeve, and let the games begin.
Eggs come in a variety of textures, so you can enjoy new sensations every time you tango.
When you’re finished, don’t worry about clean-up. Just toss the whole thing in the trash.
Satisfyer Masturbator Egg (4-Pack)
$19.95
$24.99
Satisfyer Masturbator Egg Get all 4 of the Satisfyer Egg Strokers! Each stroker has a unique internal texture to drive you over the edge next time you stroke it. This egg variety pack includes: Satisfyer "Fierce" Egg Stroker Satisfyer "Bubble"… Read More
I usually don’t recommend Eggs because it’s not economical (or eco-friendly) to use single-use sex toys. But thanks to their low cost (about $5 each) and compact size, they make great first-time testers.
Beginner Tip: Eggs make fantastic (and discreet) travel companions too!
Important: You Must Use Lube
Using a sex toy without lube is like trying to ice skate on cement. It just doesn’t work.
Those of you who lube up your hand before wanking already know this. But for the dry guys out there, you need to use lube on your sex toy —for your sake and the toy’s.
If you don’t use lube, it’ll be a lot harder to stroke yourself due to the friction. This can cause some discomfort, rug-burn style. You’re also more likely to damage the delicate interior of the toy with your unlubed dong.
Lube is what makes your sex toy feel amazing.
Now, what kind of lube should you use?
Lotion? NO.
Soap? Never.
Spit. Ew.
You need to invest a few bucks into some actual sex lube to protect your toy and your dick. The best lube for sex toys is water-based lube.
Water-based lube is affordable, non-staining, and easy to clean. It’s basically just water.
My favorite water-based lubes to use with sex toys are:
Sliquid Naturals 'Sizzle' Warming Lubricant
$8.99
$12.99
Sliquid Sizzle Warming Lubricant Heat your bedroom with the exciting tingle of Sliquid Naturals Sizzle. This adventurous product takes the formula from Sliquid's popular Naturals H2O lubricant and adds a menthol touch. You'll feel a rich, cooling sensation when Sizzle… Read More
GUN OIL 'H2O' Water-Based Lubricant
$14.99
$15.95
Gun Oil H2O Lubricant Looking for a water-based lubricant that goes the extra mile? Reach for the GUN OIL.GUN OIL products are formulated to last for a long time, and this water-based lube is no different. Condomaniacs LOVE GUN OIL H2O… Read More
Wet Original Gel Water-Based Lubricant
$5.99
$7.99
Wet Original Gel Personal Lubricant If you’re looking for a little something to whet your appetite while you get down and dirty, Wet Original is the perfect slick pick! This long-lasting lube is thick, smooth, and - because it is… Read More
4 Reasons Why You Should Buy Your First Sex Toy Right Now
The sex toys on the list above look pretty great, right? But you might feel a bit guilty about giving in and finally buying one. Well, using a sex toy isn’t a “guilty” pleasure. It’s actually good for you and your sex life.
We know sex toys can improve your life. Studies have even been done on this stuff. Here’s why you should get one now.
👉 It makes masturbation BETTER: You masturbate because it feels good. So, why wouldn’t you make it feel as good as possible?
Sex toys were designed to make masturbation feel better—WAY better. And it only costs around $25 to boost every single solo sesh you have.
When you finally try one, you will wonder why the hell you didn’t buy one sooner.
👉 It makes sex with a partner BETTER: Sex toys add many more possibilities to the bedroom when you’re with a partner.
From foreplay to teasing to edging to mutual masturbation, there are loads of new kinks and positions to explore.
👉 They help you last LONGER: Sex toys have been found to help guys last longer in bed with a partner. It makes sense, right?
If you use a toy that feels similar to the real thing (or even better), you’re going to get a lot more practice building up your stamina. Your partner will thank you for using a sex toy!
👉 They’re actually GOOD for your health: Studies have found that men who ejaculate over 20 times a month are less likely to develop prostate cancer and heart disease.
They also get better sleep. When you’ve got a toy by your side, it’s a lot easier to fill your spank bank and stay healthy.
Where is the Best Place to Buy Sex Toys?
Don’t go to Wal-Mart or a rando Amazon seller to buy a sketchy sex toy. And don’t go to that gag gift shop at the mall (do malls still exist?).
The best place to buy sex toys is online from a reputable retailer like Condomania.
When you buy online, you don’t have to risk running into your grandma at the store. Plus, most online stores offer discreet packaging and billing. So, nobody will know what you’ve bought.
Condomania is America’s first-ever condom shop. Since we opened the doors of our New York City store in 1991, we’ve led the way in safe sex and sex toy science.
Today, we operate solely online, but we’re still America’s favorite place to buy condoms, lube, sex toys, and more kinky stuff.
When you shop for sex toys at Condomania, you get:
👉 FREE discreet billing and packaging
👉 FREE condoms and sex toys with your order
👉 And the best exclusive deals on sex toys in the land
Don’t wait to upgrade your solo sex life with a stroker. Browse all of the male sex toys at Condomania here.
Are Male Sex Toys Safe?
Yes, male sex toys are completely safe. They have no side effects—to the contrary, they can actually improve your health.
But there is one big safety tip you need to know.
You must clean your toys well.
Many male sex toys are made of a semi-porous material called TPE. If you don’t clean and store this material properly, it can fall victim to bacteria and mold growth.
If you use an infected toy, that infection may be passed onto you in the form of Urethritis or a urinary tract infection (UTI).
Luckily, it’s easy to clean your toy with a bit of soap and water. Or, you can use a sex toy cleaner to get the job done with even less hassle.
Make sure the read the cleaning instructions that come with your toy, and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
All of the toys on the list above were chosen in part because they are easy to clean. For the easiest clean-up, look for a toy that you don’t ejaculate inside of, such as the VeDO Grip or Palm-Tec DX.
Get Your First Sex Toy Now
Getting a sex toy isn’t a luxury or a guilty pleasure.
It’s just a genuine pleasure. That’s why over 50% of men use sex toys.
They might not talk about it, but they know what’s up: once you try a sex toy, you’ll never look at your hand the same way again.
So, don’t settle for sub-par masturbation when you could experience more pleasure more frequently.
Sex toys make your sex life better. It’s as simple as that.
Don’t wait to join the fun. Buy your first sex toy now and start having better sex alone and with a partner.
Want to explore more toys for guys? Check out my more comprehensive Ultimate Guide to Male Sex Toys here.
It’s got more on strokers, butt stuff, cock rings, and a lot more.