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Those with vaginas can expect planet-quaking anal orgasms and A-spot stimulation. Those with prostates can experience the prostate O — possibly the most powerful orgasm a man can have. But anal done wrong can be painful, and unprotected anal is a real STI risk. Here's everything you need to know.
Butt Sex Basics
👉 Anal sex = penetrating or stimulating the anus with a penis, finger, tongue, or toy.
👉 Safe and enjoyable when done correctly.
👉 People of all genders and sexes can achieve orgasm from anal sex.
👉 Always wear a condom. HIV transfers more easily during anal sex than vaginal.
👉 Always use anal lube. Butts don't self-lubricate. See our anal lube guide.
👉 You can't get pregnant from anal. However, the back door is only ~1.5 inches from the front — beware of leakage.
👉 Anal takes preparation — you can't just wing it.
The Top 3 Things You Must Know
1. Real Anal Sex Isn't Like Porn
Porn anal bears no resemblance to real-world anal. Most buttholes cannot accommodate what you see on screen, and jackhammering with your dong leaves your partner howling in pain, not pleasure.
Real anal is slow, gentle, communicative, and intimate. It starts with consent and foreplay, and penetration intensity is controlled as much by the bottom as the top. Take it step by step — the results are far better than anything in porn.
2. Butts Don't Self-Lubricate
Apply copious amounts of lube before and during — ask your partner frequently if more is needed. Use silicone lube or oil-based lube — water-based is ok but doesn't last as long. Our favorites:
Oil-based: Boy Butter Original
Boy Butter Original Lubricant with Coconut Oil
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Boy Butter Original Lubricant Boy Butter Original is an oil-based lubricant consisting of two powerful yet gentle ingredients: coconut oil and an organic silicone blend. The ingredients are homogenized like real butter. The result is a personal lubricant… Read More
Silicone: Gun Oil
GUN OIL Silicone Lubricant
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Gun Oil Silicone Lubricant Attention, private! At ease. Designed to meet the needs of the most hardcore bedroom soldiers, Gun Oil Silicone provides slick, long-lasting lubrication thanks to its proprietary three-molecule silicone blend. You won't find a lube with the same texture… Read More
Hybrid (water + silicone): Sliquid Silk
Sliquid SILK Non-Staining Silicone & Water-Based Lubricant
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Sliquid Silk Non-Staining Silicone & Water Lubricant Sliquid Naturals Silk Lubricant is a unique blend of H2O water-based lubricant, 12% silicone, and creamy emollient esters for an even longer-lasting lubricant. Unlike pure silicone lubricants, this formula is non-staining. Sugar-free (glycerin and glycol),… Read More
Note: Oil-based lube is not safe with latex condoms. Silicone lube can degrade silicone toys. Full lube guide here.
3. Hygiene is SUPER Important
👉 Wash everything going near a butt — before AND after.
👉 Never go ass-to-mouth or ass-to-vagina. Switch condoms before switching holes.
👉 Use condoms for sex and finger condoms for fingering.
If using your tongue: use a dental dam:
Trust Assorted Flavored Dental Dams
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Top Condoms for Anal Sex
Ultra-thin: Trojan BareSkin Raw
Trojan Raw Ultra-Thin Condoms
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Trojan Bareskin Raw Condoms If you want to get closer, look no further. This is America’s thinnest latex condom. In our latest innovation, we pulled out all the stops to bring you BareSkin™ Raw™. New from Trojan™, the thinnest condom… Read More
Extra lube (non-latex): Durex Avanti Bare Real-Feel (Latex-Free)
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Ultra-thin + premium lube: Kimono MicroThin Plus
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Kimono MicroThin Plus Aqua Lube Kimono MicroThin Plus Aqua Lube Condoms combine Kimono's popular MicroThin style with their water-based Aqua Lube lubricant. The resulting product is excellent for those looking for a more sensitive and natural condom. The… Read More
Extra lube: Atlas Ultra-lubed
Atlas Ultra-Lubed Condoms
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Dive into the Silky Sensation: Atlas Ultra-Lubed Condoms Welcome, fearless pleasure-seekers, to the world of Atlas Ultra-Lubed Condoms – the love gloves that keep the party going with a silky smooth flair! If regular condoms are like the warm-up act,… Read More
With silicone lube: Caliber Condoms
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Tushy Training: Easing Into Anal Sex
1. Communicate First
Consent is mandatory regardless of relationship length. Discuss limits, comfort levels, and how far each person wants to go — during light foreplay is a natural time for this conversation.
2. Loosen Up with Foreplay
When stressed, your anus is tight and impenetrable. Foreplay loosens those muscles. Start with kissing/touching, then add gentle anal stimulation with lubricated fingers or light rubbing over clothing.
3. Start with a Finger or a Toy
Never start with a penis. Begin with a pinky or a small butt plug. Progress gradually — maybe a larger toy or two fingers. You may need 5, 10, or 100 sessions before you're ready for penetration. That's totally fine — all anal play is pleasurable. Anal training kits come with graduated plugs for exactly this purpose.
4. Go SLOWLY
Lube all butts and penises generously. The top penetrates slowly, checking in as they go deeper. Remember: most penises are thickest mid-shaft — the bottom may be fine with the tip but not the base. If there's pain, stop. Taking it slow also feels better for both — the tight rectal opening provides most of the top's sensation, and slow movement maximizes that.
5. Find Your Pleasure Together
New to anal? The bottom partner should do all the moving while the top stays relatively still. Cowgirl and doggy work best for this. Once experienced, try missionary or spooning for synchronized groove. Anal sex requires teamwork — unlike vaginal, the bottom drives the pace.
Is Anal Sex Safe?
Anal can be totally safe — or cause serious injury if done wrong. The biggest risk is infection. Small tears in rectal tissue expose both partners to STIs. Bacteria from the rectum causes problems if it reaches the urethra or vagina. Follow these rules:
Wash before and after. Hygiene is everything.
Keep lots of lube on hand. Dry anal causes tears and anal fissures.
Don't mix holes. Once something enters the butt, it's closed for mouth and vagina. Use and switch condoms before changing holes.
Use a condom. Condoms protect against STIs and bacteria. They also make cleanup easier.
Pee afterward. Helps flush bacteria from the urethra/vagina.
Stop if you feel pain. Pain means stop. Full stop.
One-nighters = extra caution. Anal requires trust, communication, and known limits. Do it with someone you trust.
Poops and Farts
Will You Poop?
Probably not. Poop is stored further back in the intestine, not near the anal opening — so if you've already gone that day, you'll generally be fine. Don't have anal if you feel the urge to go or have had diarrhea recently. A little something sometimes happens — put down towels, be compassionate, and move on. It's just a little poop.
What About Farts?
Almost certain. It's just air that entered during sex making its escape. Not smelly — but possibly trumpety. Consider it a badge of honor.
Anal Sex Toys
Anal doesn't require a partner or a penis. Anal sex toys — butt plugs, prostate massagers, dildos, anal vibrators, anal beads — let you explore solo with full control. The butt is packed with nerve endings. Men can stimulate the prostate (P-spot) for arguably the strongest male orgasm possible. Women can indirectly stimulate the G-spot via the shared rectal/vaginal wall.
Why Use Anal Sex Toys?
🍑 Great for masturbation — combine anal play with your normal routine for bigger O's.
🍑 Safe for beginners — total control over speed and depth. Anal training kits are purpose-built for this.
🍑 Experiment with vibration, beads, plugs, dildos — all feel different.
🍑 Prostate massage — far more effective with a dedicated massager than fingers. Remote-controlled options like the Aneros Vice 2 are especially convenient.
Aneros Vice 2 Vibrating Prostate Massager
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Top Anal Sex Toys for Beginners
Butt Plugs: B-Vibe Training Set of 3 | Amethyst Rain Glass Plug | Lovense Hush 2 Small
Dildos/Probes: Le Wand Stainless Hoop | Glass G-Spot Pleasure Set | Rock Bottom Blendies
Vibrators: Femme Fun PLUA Remote Plug | SVAKOM Jordan | Satisfyer Backdoor Lover
Prostate Massagers: Lovense Edge 2 | LELO Loki Wave 2 | Aneros Vice 2
Anal Beads: Luxe Silicone Anal Beads | Wearable Silicone Beads | VeDO Quaker Vibrating Beads
The Bottom Line
Anal sex is your body — yours to explore. Just treat it differently than vaginal sex: preparation, hygiene, and safety are non-negotiable. Take it slow, be patient, and communicate. If it's not for you, skip it entirely — there are plenty of other fun things to do in the bedroom. Quick recap: always use a condom + lube; communication is key; start small; wash before and after; lay down towels; anal toys are your friend.
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