Are you in a long-term relationship, or does your partner travel? Having phone sex is a great way to stay as close as ever to your partner!
Though this may seem crazy, it is actually a lot easier and more exciting than you can imagine. Nothing joins you and your partner closer than making love to one another.
With partners being far away, it is a bit tougher to achieve that. You obviously can't physically be with them, so using phone sex as an alternative to keep things fresh, new, and exciting in your relationship.
I will give you some great tips on how to have awesome phone sex, so whether you are just down the road or 3,000 miles away from your love, grab your phone and have some fun!
Set up a 'phone sex' date
This is the very first thing you should do. You want both of you to be ready and without outside distractions! You don't like being disturbed when you are 'getting lucky' at home. There is no difference here. You can always start out by sexting your partner and sending them a racy photo of yourself. This is always a good way to get things going!
You can get things started throughout the day by sexting. Sexting is a great way to get things going, especially if you are too shy to say certain things. You can send hints on what you want to do to your partner or what you want your partner to do to you. This will get you both relaxed and in the mood as well!
Sending sexy pics is always a turn-on too, this is especially true for guys! Make sure that you have a good connection if you are using cell phones. Let's face it; most of us don't even have landline phones anymore. We all have cell phones. The last thing you want is to lose connection just as things are heating up.
Have a game plan before going in!
Make a few notes that have a general 'storyline' in mind. This will keep you from having any awkward silent moments that may make your partner think you have or are losing interest. Don't be afraid to 'rehearse' a bit before you call. Just make sure that you aren't reading off of a script. You don't want to sound like a robot, and you want to make sure that you keep it loose so your partner can interject and take the lead if they want.
Get comfy!
If you are comfortable, you are much more likely to open up about your wants and fantasies. Make sure that you are in a place that you can 'have fun. Whether you are in your apartment alone, your bedroom, or taking a bath sipping on some wine.
The place doesn't matter as long as you are distraction-free and super comfy. Setting the mood in your house or hotel room is super important. Turn down the lights, put on some soft music, and light some candles. Do what you would normally do to get ready for a roll in the hay. Feel sexy and turn yourself on.
Get yourself ready for your 'phone' date, just as you would for a regular date. Shower, shave, put on something sexy! Lingerie is always a good choice to put on, as you can bet one of the first things talked about is going to be 'what are you wearing?’ Ensure that if it usually takes you a bit to 'get in the mood,' you do some 'prepping' before dialing the number.
Although you shouldn't 'touch' yourself before you make the phone call, you don't want it to end too quickly; you should lie in bed, caress your body, and picture your partner lying next to you. Imagine how great it felt last time your partner was with you.
Once you are starting to heat up, make the call. Adjust your voice. Speak in soft, smoky, breathy tones. If you lower your voice to just above a whisper, it will seem super sexy! If you elongate your words and stretch them out, your voice will sound soothing and ultra enticing.
Tell them how excited you are to hear from them. Make sure that you start off slow, though. Ask how their day was and tell them that you had a good day also. Don't go into detail though, just make a bit of small talk to break the ice.
Say something casual yet hot. For example: 'I've been thinking about you all day long and 'I wish you were here next to me. By saying something along these lines, you keep it casual, yet you know you are thinking about them.
Don't be afraid to go a bit outside of your comfort zone!
If our partner is next to us, we tend not to say certain things that might make us blush, as we don't want them to see us blushing. That is the great thing about phone time. We can say those things that make us blush, and we don't have to worry about our partner seeing us. This is a great time to step out of our comfort zone and maybe say a few things we wouldn't say if our partner were in bed next to us.
Tell your partner your fantasies and ask them what their fantasies are. If you aren't comfortable talking about your fantasies, grab a steamy romance novel and read a bit of it to your love. This is sure to get things hot. When your partner is talking, close your eyes. This will make you feel more pleasure and help you imagine everything you are talking about! Plus, it will make your descriptions sound more real. When your partner is talking, let their voice guide your hands.
Be her guide and get inquisitive!
Ask her what she's wearing. After she answers, tell her you have been dying to take her clothes off her all day! Tell her that you miss touching her and ask her if she misses you touching her. Ask her what room she is in. Tell her to head to the bedroom if she isn't already there. Have her follow you as to what she takes off and when.
As she is undressing, tell her where to caress herself and have her describe how it feels. When you take control of the situation, it will make things less awkward for her! Women like strong men that are in control of the situation!
Do not spare any details!
Use graphic language; this doesn't have to be XXX rated, and be very specific. Tell him what he does that turns you on. Tease him and let him know how your body feels when you are touching yourself!
This is a great time to break out your toys. Tell him exactly how you feel as you touch the vibrator to your body. Tell him to stroke himself and have him tell you how it feels as he is doing it. Have him bring out his 'sleeve' and tell you how it feels as he wraps the sleeve around himself.
We are a visual people, so paint a vivid mental picture! Tell each other how much you want one another. Go into as much detail as you can and tell your partner what your favorite part of their body is and how much you wish it were right next to you.
Then, tell each other what you would do if they were sitting right there. Say something along the lines of 'first I would kiss your neck and run my fingers through your hair.' As you go along, get more explicit. Tell each other what you are doing as you are doing it. This brings great excitement for both partners when one partner tells the other what to do, and that partner explains how they feel every step of the way. Take turns doing this.
Don't be afraid to make noise!
Do not underestimate how heavy breathing, moaning, and groaning will turn her on! This will be even better than in the sack as you are grunting in her ear over the phone. Hearing your partner make 'joyful' noises is a huge turn-on for anyone!
We all love knowing that our partner is having fun, so let them know you are! Whip out your vibrator here and let your moaning do all of the talking. Or if you are a guy, take out your 'stroker' and sigh loudly into the receiver.
If you aren't using toys, you can always let him hear you suck on your finger, trust me when I say this will make things a billion times hotter for him!
Get a bit kinky and playful!
Because you are just on the phone and don't have all of the sensations of physical sex, you need to keep things interesting. This is a great time to talk about things you have been curious to try in bed. Things can get pretty boring, and you can lose interest pretty quick if you keep it like you do in your bedroom. Tell one another what you would like to try on the other, maybe a bit of S&M, anal, or some new thing you read about.
It is much easier to talk about your naughty desires over the phone than in person, so play it up! Take on an alter ego and play a fictional character, such as a French Madame or a Scottish lord. Replay a steamy moment you had together! Talk about a time that you two had a super hot sex escapade.
Replay that time you took each other on the beach when you pulled off to the side of the road and had a quickie with cars driving by, or the first time you were together. Whatever floats your boat here. This will be super sexy, though, as you can both tell how you remember it and how you felt.
Ask a question if things start to get quiet. If there happens to be a lull in your conversation, just ask a question like 'what does your body feel like right now. Or say something like, 'you make me so hot, tell me how wet you are.' This will definitely get things rolling again!
Pay attention to your partner's reactions. If you are talking about going 'downtown' on her and she seems uninterested or not responding, don't be afraid to change things up. This is a sign that it's time to move on.
If possible, orgasm together!
If you can't do this at the same time, let's face it, whether physically together or over the phone, you probably won't come at the same time; take turns. Let your partner know that you are ready to peak. Let her hear your heavy, hot breathing and your sighs and moans; these will help her get ready to come also. Let your partner know how much pleasure you are feeling.
Then, make sure you continue 'being sexy' and tell your partner how much you want her to come. Once you orgasm, just sit quietly for a minute as you are still breathing heavily. You want to make sure that you take the time to enjoy the after-effects of a great phone session!
Finish up with a sweet whisper!
Just as you would if you were physically together, whisper something sweet in each other’s ear before you hang up. Whisper 'That felt so good, babe! Have great dreams tonight' or 'that was amazing, Then get off the phone as you don't want to turn your hot 'session' into a boring routine conversation. There is always time for that later on. Stay sexy and hang up. This will keep you both excited for the next time you see each other or next time you have another phone 'date'!