How to Make Her Squirt: Everything You Need to Know

How to Make Her Squirt: Everything You Need to Know

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You’ve seen the porn. You’ve heard the tales. But is it really possible to make a woman squirt?

The answer is yes.

Squirting is not a mythical sex act or a special effect perpetrated by porn stars. It’s something that nearly all women (probably 100%) can do.

But most women don’t know they can squirt.

And most men (and women) don’t know how to make their partner squirt.

What does that mean for you?

It means that you can treat your partner(s) to a completely new and unique sexual experience that they’ll NEVER forget.

All you have to do is learn a few simple steps to turn on the waterworks.

Learn how to do it below.

Yes, You Can Make a Woman Squirt—Here’s How

Is it possible to make a woman squirt? Yes.

These simple steps are the best way to make a woman squirt if she’s not sure how to do it.

Just keep in mind: All women have unique bodies and unique perceptions of pleasure, so make sure you communicate with your partner throughout the process.

You might need to make small adjustments based on their needs.

Also, if a woman has squirted before, just let her tell you what to do! Most women need some G-spot stimulation to squirt, but others can squirt from clitoral or anal stimulation too.

Step 1: Foreplay (yes, it’s important for squirting!)

Foreplay is essential to getting a woman to squirt because the mental game is big here. If a woman is uncomfortable or nervous, she’s less likely to squirt (or have an orgasm).

Start by giving her a full body massage and telling her all the things you find sexy about her body. The goal is to boost her confidence and make her as relaxed as possible.

Next, ease into the sexy stuff slowly by teasing her erogenous zones (neck, nipples, and earlobes) before going down south. Don’t make her feel like you’re rushing to the splash zone or she’ll get anxious about performing.

When she’s ready, move on to the next step.

Step 2: Go downtown (optional)

The best way to make a woman squirt is to combine clit stimulation and G-spot stimulation.

If her clit is very sensitive, you can skip to the G-spot stimulation in the next step (Step 3) and let her use a bullet vibrator on her clit instead.

If she wants you to stimulate her clit, head down south and use your mouth. Use your tongue to gently stimulate her clit and explore the surrounding area.

We won’t get into the details on how to give amazing oral here—you can find that in our ultimate guide to cunnilingus.

Step 3: Insert 1-2 fingers and find the G-spot

Now, it’s G-spot time. As you’re working the clit with your tongue, insert 1-2 fingers, palm up, into her vagina. You may want to add some water-based lube to your fingers to ensure a smooth entry.

Feel around about 1-1.5 inches inside on the upper wall of the vagina. Here, you’ll notice an area of tissue that feels rougher than the smooth surface around it—a bit like a sponge.

Congratulations: You’ve found the G-spot.

Step 4: Make the “come here” motion

This is the most important step!

Gently rub the G-spot with your fingers, still face-up, by making a “come here” motion. This is how you stimulate the G-spot, which will cause the liquid to build up and eventually squirt.

You’ll notice that the G-spot becomes engorged with liquid the more you stimulate it. This will make her vagina feel tighter around your fingers.

Keep making the “come here” motion until she feels tight and very wet.

At this point, she may squirt.

If she doesn’t, she might tell you she feels a lot of pressure or that she feels like she’s going to pee. This is a good thing!

The urge to squirt feels like the urge to pee because squirt comes from the bladder (more on this later

If she says anything like this, tell her everything is ok and that she’s not going to pee (you can also stop stimulating her clit with your mouth at this point).

When she mentions this pressure (or if she’s just very tight and wet), you’ll know it’s time to move to the next step.

Step 5: Apply pressure to the lower abdomen

At this point, she’s probably ready to squirt. But she may not know how to release the liquid. You can help her by applying light pressure to her lower abdomen.

First, if you’re still lying face-first in her lady parts, get onto your knees in a kneeling position. This will enable you to put more power into your “come here” motion.

With your other hand, apply some pressure to her lower abdomen.

If this doesn’t work, gently lift her leg (the one nearest to you) and bring her knee towards her chest. This will put natural pressure on her lower abdomen, and if her G-spot is engorged, she will squirt.

Step 6: Rub the clit

When she starts squirting, continue the “come here” motion until you feel a big release of liquid. Then, remove your fingers from her vagina and use them to gently stimulate her clit.

Some women really enjoy this, and it might cause them to continue squirting. For others, the clit stimulation is too intense. So, pay attention to your partner’s body language.

After she’s squirted, you can put your fingers inside her again and feel if her G-spot is still engorged. If so, make the “come here” motion again, and she might squirt more.

That’s it!

You’re now a squirt scholar. Practice these steps with your partner. It might take you a few tries, but eventually, you’ll become fluent in making women squirt.

Once she breaks the squirt seal, it will be easier for her to do it every time. So, if you or your partner are into squirting, it’s worth taking the time to learn this skill.

Dispelling Squirting Myths

I get it. You’re skeptical about squirting. That makes sense.

As is historically common with all things female pleasure, the evidence and claims about squirting have been misleading for a long time.

Porn hasn’t helped, but neither have studies—some of which have claimed that only around 10% of women can squirt.

This is just not true. From my experience, both personally and in the field of sexual research, I can say that at least 90% of women can squirt.

But don’t take my word for it.

According to sex researcher and New York University professor Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D. , “the vast majority of vagina owners can be made to [squirt].”

While all women react to pleasure and stimulation in different ways, the basic mechanics are the same. All women have G-spots, bladders, and urethras.

They’ve got all the tools. You just need to know how to use them.

Here are a few more squirting myths that cause many people to think that it isn’t possible to make most women squirt.

Myth: It’s Pee

Squirting is not the same as peeing. Some research has suggested that squirting is peeing because squirt liquid comes from the bladder.

However, it is generally odorless and colorless. It might have a slight pheromone smell, but it’s definitely not the same as pee.

Women who squirt will tell you that there’s a big difference. Many female sex researchers say the same.

Sometimes, a pee will come out with the squirt fluid. Both come from the bladder, so this is only natural. The best way to prevent this is to have your partner pee before sex.

In other cases, women who think they’re squirting are actually peeing. This is not common because women who have squirted before can feel the difference between squirting and peeing.

It’s pretty obvious when it’s pee because the smell is very different.

Myth: Very few women are physically able to squirt

This is a myth that has evolved a lot over the years. Originally, it was thought that only a small percentage of women could squirt because only a small percentage of women reported squirting.

Over time, that percentage has risen from 3% to 10% to 60%. And now, many sexual health researchers agree that it’s highly likely that most, if not all, women can squirt.

Just because you haven’t done it before doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

Myth: Squirting happens during orgasm

Squirting is not the same as having an orgasm. It’s a separate function. Some women squirt when they have an orgasm, but most women do not.

This means that there’s a wide spectrum of pleasure associated with squirting. Some women love the feeling enough to refer to it as a type of orgasm all its own.

On the other end of the spectrum, some women don’t enjoy the feeling of squirting at all.

For most women, the feeling is enjoyable, as it’s the result of G-spot stimulation (and sometimes clitoral/anal stimulation), which tends to feel pretty great.

Just don’t think that your work is done just because your partner has squirted.

Myth: Liquid shoots across the room when a woman squirts

Squirting very rarely happens as a concentrated stream fire-hosing across the room. Though it is possible. Instead, many women “gush” liquid when they squirt (this is another way to tell squirting from peeing).

These gushes can occur in one or more bursts. It’s a bit like squeezing a soaked sponge—a burst of liquid followed by a trickle. If you keep simulating the G-spot, you may get more bursts of gushing liquid.

While gushing is common, some women don’t do this either. Others only have a trickle of liquid come out now and then, so you may not notice how much she’s squirted until you look at the sheets later.

Myth: Being able to squirt is purely physical

Sexual pleasure is just as mental and emotional as it is physical, and that applies to squirting too. Women who are uncomfortable or afraid to squirt will have a much harder time doing it.

It’s like being pee-shy (it involves the same organs and muscles!).

For this reason, it can take several tries to get her to squirt for the first time. Don’t ever put pressure on your partner to perform—this will only make it harder for her to squirt.

Instead, engage in more foreplay and make her as comfortable as possible before you start the steps above.

A Few Final Squirting Tips

You’re now ready to make your partner squirt. But before you do, here are a few more tips that could make your life a lot easier (and less waterlogged).

👉 Prepare for Copious Amounts of Fluid: She might release a shot glass of fluid when she squirts…or a pint’s worth. She won’t have control over the volume of liquid, and neither will you.

This can leave your sheets soaked, and it could even damage your mattress. Invest in a mattress protector or a moisture-proof blanket when engaging in squirt play. At the very least, lay a towel down!

👉 Use a Toy: Are your fingers getting tired? Or maybe she wants to improve her squirting abilities on her own time? Once you both learn the ropes of squirting, choose a G-spot stimulating toy to increase her pleasure and the amount she squirts.

Rabbit vibrators, with their curved and bulbous heads, are designed for G-spot stimulation. If a vibrator is too intense, try a G-spot wand

👉 Use Finger Condoms: If you’re with a casual partner, finger condoms can keep you both protected while you’re making her squirt.

Not only that, but some finger condoms come with upraised pleasure nubs that make it much easier to stimulate the G-spot.

The most important thing to remember when making a woman squirt is to communicate with her before, during, and after. Sure, the steps above are solid. But she is the real authority when it comes to her body.

Read this article with your partner, make a squirting sex date, and have fun!

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