We have talked about getting your fantasies out there. If one of your fantasies is to try some light bondage, here are some tips! May I say first things first? You need to have a "Safe" word. And it has to be something that you would not normally say in the heat of the moment. Maybe something like Bear or some such word.
Also, keep in mind that Bondage is not something you want to try with a first date or a one-night stand. After all, neither of you wants to be left in some room tied up. Stay sober when trying bondage! If you are just not comfortable trying bondage out, do not let your partner or anyone else coerces you into doing something you do not want to do.
Some Bondage examples are found here. Keep in mind, though, that a simple tie can tie you to a bed. Soft bondage items include a silk tie, a silk scarf, a specially made silk tie, or even cuffs.
Start with binding the wrist and ankles. For a little bit more kink, have your wrists tied to the bedposts! This will allow your partner to explore your whole body, and you will not be able to touch them at all. Or tie him up and explore his body.
There are lots of ways to do this! With a rose, feather, or ice cubes. Warming and Tingling lubes can help with this type of play. Use a blindfold for this to increase the sensations! You could also use a rope.
Please do not use the kind that you would say, tie up your boat with. Use a nylon rope. Ensure that you have some scissors handy just in case you have to get the ropes off quickly.
Any type of restraints that you decide to use needs to be kept fairly loose. You do not want to leave bruises on each other. You could try gags or choker-style stuff, but I would be cautious with these as you can break tissue in the neck and do some serious damage.
Now that we have the safety and instruments out of the way let’s talk about the fun of Bondage!
Play around a little with who will be the submissive and who will dominate. Either position can be a huge turn-on. Having your partner tied up means you can touch them absolutely anywhere. Use your tongue to lick wherever your heart desires. You can rub your nipples all over as well. Remember, make this experience sexy as hell!
Stroke nice and slow wherever you please. If your partner is not bound but is submissive in a scenario, you could have them lick or rub you wherever you want it done. There is a whole new door open when you are just trying out BDSM, bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism.
Sometimes in bondage, there is role-playing and spanking and lightly slapping when the submissive has not done what the dominant partner has said to do right. These would be something to try out when you are more comfortable with the lighter bondage. You could also bring some toys into the bondage fun.
Again please make sure that everyone is comfortable with this idea as well. Not all men would want to have their tushy violated with a toy. However, while you have him tied up, you could try a bullet under the scrotum or in your hand while you are stroking him.
Same for you guys out there. You could use a bullet or even dildo with your girl while she is all tied up and bring her to the brink of the Big O a few times.
Remember that flavored lube that we talked about? You could rub it all over each other’s bodies and have fun licking it off while one or the other is tied to the bed and unable to grab you and lick back.
There definitely is something sexy about being in control! What do you think about it?