We've all heard excuses from men about having to wear a condom. It's too tight. I can't feel anything. I don't like them. It doesn't fit, too small or too big. He wants to go all nat-ur-al. I can't afford them. I'm too embarrassed to buy them. Even, I've been tested, I don't need to use one.
So ladies, why not take the initiative and use a female condom? The next time you hear an excuse, you can just say, "Hey, I've got my own."
A female condom is used to prevent pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). It can be used for vaginal or anal intercourse. It is a pouch that has a ring on both ends. One end is closed, the end that is inserted deep into the vagina or anus.
The open ring end stays on the outside of the vagina or anus during intercourse. It covers the inside of the vagina to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases and collects the pre-cum and semen when a man ejaculates. Thus keeping the semen from reaching the egg. Since it covers the wall of the vagina, it reduces the risk of sexually transmitted diseases.
- Lubricant or spermicide on the outside of the closed ends helps.
- Get into a comfortable position, rather it is lying down on the bed, squatting, or standing.
- Squeeze the sides of the closed end and slip into the vagina just like a tampon.
- Push the inner ring deep inside the vagina, as far as it will go until it reaches the cervix.
- Pull out your finger, let the outer ring hang outside of the vagina about an inch, and wah-lah.
- You are ready for action. (It inserts into the anus the same way.)
It is normal for the female condom to slip side to side, but try to make sure it stays outside the vagina. If the condom slips into the vagina, it is okay to pull the condom out and re-insert it as long as there is no ejaculation in it.
To remove the condom, twist and close the open end of the condom to hold the ejaculation inside the condom. Gently pull the condom out of the vagina/anus and throw the condom in the trash.
The female condom should not be used with the male condom. This is likely to cause friction, thus making it more likely breakage will occur. If not enough lube is used, it can also make strange noises.
It can be inserted up to 8 hours ahead of time to not cause interruption during the heat of the moment, making an easy transition between foreplay and intercourse.
Polyurethane is stronger than latex and allows more heat between two bodies - providing a unique and a more natural sensation. Some couples enjoy the "closeness" of using the female condom because the man doesn't have to withdraw as soon as he ejaculates.
The female condom is also approved for sex in the water. Since the condom is inside the vagina, the less water will affect it, and the less likely it is to slide out. Polyurethane is less likely to break down in chemicals like chlorine. How sexy is that?
There have been mixed reviews on the female condom, but there are mixed reviews for everything. You can't knock it till you try it. Women used to cringe at the thought of wearing a tampon, but it caught on.
The female condom is the only female contraceptive that protects against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. That should empower women. It gives ladies the choice to be protected, making sex less risky for them as a female. It even has been reviewed as being a little more expensive than male condoms.
In my opinion, you got to look at it this way - it is less expensive than a child or doctor visits from contracting a disease. A child is your responsibility for the first 18 years of their life, but they are still yours for a lifetime. Diseases like HIV, AIDS, and genital herpes last a lifetime. You'd have to inform every sex partner you have for the rest of the life of your disease.
I don't know about you, but if my potential sex partner were to come to me and tell me that they have an incurable disease, I would definitely be thinking twice about that person becoming a sex partner. Nobody wants that. So ladies, why not take the initiative and use a female condom?