Anal Sex Basics: How to get started with Backdoor Sex!

Anal Sex Basics: How to get started with Backdoor Sex!


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There’s no doubt about it: anal sex can turn you on to a whole other realm of sexy experiences you never believed possible.

The anus and anal passage have plenty of nerve endings. Still, anal play for men will stimulate the prostate (male g-spot), and for women, it provides secondary stimulation to the g-spot through the anal cavity wall.

Recommended Read: The Adventurers Guide to the Male G-Spot

Anal play can sometimes be scary as you may be concerned with mess or pain, but with the proper techniques and advice, you can avoid these uncomfortable possible side effects and simply let the pleasure-seeking begin.

The basics of getting started with anal sex should get you started on just that path.

Have the Right Chat

There are no two ways about it. Having an anal experience with your partner involves a great deal of communication.

The first step in the communication chain is discussing your partner’s views on how they would like to experiment.

Thinking you will just sneak it in will not be successful unless your partner is already very willing (even though you hadn’t asked), and the likely result may be some harsh words or even a slap.

The conversation surrounding the anal sex topic should start previously by discussing the expectations of both of you.

Then, you can broach the subject of the best ways you will achieve that expected experiences.

If any mention of anal play results in a firm no, it seems you may be fresh out of luck.

Be Clean

If either partner is concerned about a mess, various ways to combat this. For example:

  • Not eating solids for a day (pretty extreme if you ask us).
  • Emptying your bowels before a play session.
  • Cleaning in the shower Douching.

All are viable options; however, the best way to eliminate all opportunities for a mess is to douche.

Douching kits are available at any sex shop or online for minimal cost.

Directly before a play session, douche with warm water at least once (more if you want extra certain) to provide the best environment for you to play in.

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Prepare with Smaller Objects

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We highly recommend reading the blog post How to Prepare for Amazing Anal Sex to learn more about this subject.

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